By Dr Tang Teck Nguong
Goal-setting is easier said than done. There seems to be so many things that we want to do or have. Should we try to go for all of them? Where do we start? How do we start?
Goal-setting is as much an art as it is a science. There are systematic ways to go about goal-setting but there will always be some people who are particularly good at it.
It is just like medicine. All doctors are well trained in the science of medicine. However, it is the art of medicine that generally differentiates the excellent doctors from the rest.
We can set different goals for each of the roles we play in life. Ask yourself, what are some goals that you want to achieve for a particular role that you fill? For example, what are your goals as a father or mother? What do you want to see yourself achieve in that role? It can be one goal or it can be multiple goals.
Once you are done with one role, move on to the next and do the same thing. With goal-setting for each role, it is good to start with something big. The big goal should be the ultimate goal that you want to achieve in life for that role. Subsequently, you can break it down into smaller pieces, something that is digestible on a yearly, monthly, weekly or daily basis.
Getting to where you want to go eventually is a matter of taking all the small steps one at a time. So, you should practise dividing them into smaller goals and then attempt to fulfill each goal one at a time.
For example, if you want to give your children an education fund of $500,000 in fifteen years’ time, you will need to work out how much to save on a yearly, monthly, weekly and daily basis from now until then. Five hundred thousand dollars may seem like a huge sum but when you break it down into smaller amounts, it could turn out to be less than $100 per month, which appears more manageable. This helps to maximize your chances of achieving your main goal.
Goals should fulfill the SMART criteria. They should be:
S = Specific
M = Measurable
A = Actionable
R = Realistic
T = Time specific
Everyone sets goals in their own way. There is no right or wrong approach. You need to choose a style that you are comfortable with and which is likely to keep you engaged.
Keep reminding yourself of your goals and motivational messages. After all, we are human beings. We tend to forget things especially when we face obstacles and stresses in life.
Definitely, everyone needs a boost from time to time, and positive messages go a long way in doing this. Never underestimate the power of little positive messages. They help to keep us firmly on track! This is when nagging is actually beneficial!
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